I've decided that the best way to even make a small dent in the housework around here is to have a regular schedule that I follow each week. My duties each day will be small but I'll do the same thing in order each week. If I at least get this stuff done, then the house will be livable. Anymore and I'll feel like a freaking star. So here it is:
Monday: change the sheets
Tuesday: clean the bathrooms (we have four so that is no mean feat)
I know that it doesn't seem like much, and it isn't but it will hopefully keep me on track to do one small thing each day that isn't just changing diapers, doing laundry and cleaning the kitchen. Sometimes that feels like all I do. Within this schedule I'll also be fitting laundry and sweeping and (rarely) mopping.
Since my focus is primarily to be with the kids, I think this will give me the balance I'm looking for: lots of play time and a house that is fit for humans and not just pigs.