(1) kids will figure out how to do things on their own time
(2) don't apply (1) to every situation
Which further feeds into something else I've learned: you'll be faced with a lot of different situations. Even if you're dealing with the same kid, the same rules may not apply. For example, I totally pushed Emily into toilet training before she was ready. MAJOR mistake and thus ensued months of pain and torture and poop. That did not often land in the toilet.
Next example, I did push Emily to learn to tie her shoes during the summer between SK and Grade 1. I knew she could do it if she just practised. I was right and she was tying like a pro before the first day of Grade 1. Goodbye velcro
Next example, riding a two-wheeler. Emily is a
Score one for this lazy yet seasoned parent! (Oh, and score one for Emily too.)